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escort strategies to stay out of legal trouble

posted May 14, 2019, 1:55 AM by Nikki Rain

First I would like to answer a very important question:

Are escorts legal? Yes, escorts are legal.

How so? Escorts, unlike prostitutes, are paid for their time and companionship. Anything that happens within this time is a private matter of consenting adults. One of the challenges of escorting is staying within the limits of escorting, and the text below helps define these limits.

As an escort, not only are you looking to promote your business, but you’re also looking for ways to ensure that you and your business do not catch the eye of the legal authorities.

Being an escort is not illegal, and you are not breaking any laws by performing escort-related services. However, any acts of prostitution or solicitation of acts of prostitution is illegal in most of the United States. Other countries are generally more relaxed about prostitution and have friendlier laws concerning the activity.

Blatantly breaking laws is one way to get yourself in trouble. The differences between escorting and prostitution are sometimes subtle, but with some thought, consideration and common sense, you should be able to keep yourself out hot water and operating a successful business.

1. Create a contract
Write a contract that briefly describes your business. It should inform the client that your personal services are related exclusively to modeling or exchanging time as a companion for a fee. This contract should outline that anything outside of the personal services you have detailed are instances of personal choice or preference between two or more consenting adults of legal age and not for compensation in any way or form nor are contractable now or in the future.By creating a contract, you specifically define your role as an escort and exclude anything that is illegal. Require each client to sign it before services are rendered. Clients are usually happily inclined to sign such a contract, as it works to protect them from future discrepancies with the authorities, as well.
2. Ask for a donation
If you are uncomfortable with the idea of a contract for your business, use a donation method. Remember that most states define prostitution as accepting money as compensation for sexual services delivered to another person. To avoid the compensation debacle altogether, ask for a contribution or donation for your personal services as an escort. Do not refer to the charge as a fee or cost.
3. How to accept money
As an escort, you will be accepting money for your time. The best way to accept a donation is to have a small table near your apartment door, if you are working from your own apartment. As your client enters, ask him or her to leave the money in an envelope on the table. Ask them, “Do you have an envelope for me? Just leave it on the table there, please!” At that point, suggest that they “freshen up” in the washroom. As he or she is in the washroom, quickly examine what has been left for you. In this fashion, you have deniability about the direct transfer of money for your services.A different situation arises if you are visiting a client in a hotel room or other location. Keep in mind that some clients will be very uncomfortable with going into the washroom and leaving an escort alone in their hotel room with their belongings. This is completely understandable, as you both are strangers. A strategy to avoid this awkward situation is to request the client to place the envelope in a location that’s right next to the washroom. As you ask them to enter the washroom, say, “Feel free to keep the door cracked open so you can hear me right here. I’ll be coming in 30 seconds; I just need to check something first.”
4. Familiarize yourself with the law
Read up on state law concerning prostitution and other related violations. Knowledge is power, and the more you know the better you can protect yourself from legal trouble. As an escort, you should clearly understand what prostitution means in your state.
5. Become a masseuse
Instead of calling yourself an escort, become a masseuse. Massages are legal in all 50 states in the U.S. and are easy to advertise. It is generally very easy to become a masseuse in each state, with limited licensing formality. Being a masseuse also helps in regard to creating a contract. However, read up on any laws that may concern contact with another individual. Your massage descriptions should avoid discussion of erotic massage or massages involving the genital or intimate areas on an individual.
6. Pay Uncle Sam
One of the easiest ways to attract legal attention to yourself and your business is to fail to file taxes and report income. The IRS can easily track everyone down, and by not paying taxes you may be waving a red flag in their eyes.File taxes and report your income as compensation for rendering personal services. Personal assistants, housekeepers and cosmetologists report income for personal services for other people; and, you can, too.

The downside to this strategy is that you must pay taxes. However, every legitimate business is required to pay taxes, and as an escort, remember that you are running this type of business.

7. Avoid street walking
Never take your business to the street. By standing on a street corner, hovering around a bus station or hanging out at a truck stop, you might as well be telling a police officer that you are a prostitute. The message is very clear to law enforcement officers when they see someone loitering and stopping passers-by. It is much safer and simpler to promote your escort business online.
8. Go big city
Move your business to a large city. It’s much easier to fly under the radar and go unnoticed if you’re working in a large, metropolitan city. With cities that have populations of 750,000 or more, you’re less likely to attract attention.Additionally, large population means a larger potential client base, plus you will be less likely to run into someone you know.
9. Don’t proposition
Escorts should never start the conversation about business. Always allow the client to bring up requests, money offers and anything else that should be discussed prior to doing business. By making the offer or explaining the details, you may break prostitution solicitation laws, which can cause you problems.
10. Stay quiet
Keep your career choice quiet. There’s no need to share what you do with everyone. The fewer people who know what you really do, the better. Even though people may not mean any harm, information can sometimes be incidentally shared with the wrong person or in the wrong company. By keeping mum about your career, you reduce the chances of any legal backlash.
11. Become a legitimate business
Register with your city or municipality and state for a small business license and obtain an escort permit. After completely filling out all paperwork, you will receive a business ID number and the legitimacy of being a real business. Worries about your escort business being found to be illegal are lessened when the city and state both recognize your business as legal.Of course, just because you have a legal license does not mean you are above the law. You should still operate your business cautiously and with subtleness.
No guarantees
There is no guarantee that following any of these strategies will shield you from all legal risks involved in working as an escort. It is important to always be cautious, not reveal more than necessary, and to refuse service to anyone if something doesn’t feel right.

Interview with a lawyer: Tips for an escort to stay legal

 Mr. Shanon Gray is an attorney at Gray Law, a Portland, OR-based firm that handles criminal defense cases, including prostitution. Mr. Gray would like to preface this interview by making it clear that none of this is intended as legal advice, but merely responses to general questions.

What jurisdiction does your advice apply to?
I am licensed in the State of Oregon. I am not familiar with other state laws on prostitution and escort services.
If it’s very local, are there general guidelines across the United States?
Each state has its own laws and most of these offenses will not be federal offenses (unless you get into sex trafficking) . The Feds may also get interested if there are large amounts of money being exchanged and/or services that are being performed across state lines.
Does asking a client “are you a police officer” help escorts in any way?
Not sure how it would help as the police officer is not going to tell you he is a cop.
Does having a disclaimer in an ad along the lines of “I offer escort services and not prostitution services” protect the poster in any way? Especially if a poster later agrees to have sex within the time limits of their encounter?
The disclaimer would help you at trial (looking like a legitimate business) if you were charged with prostitution. Although there will probably be additional evidence of prostitution (johns’ testimony, etc…) in order for the District Attorney’s office to issue the case.
Would having a client sign a contract stating “Payment is for my services as an escort only and not for sex” (prior to the session), protect an escort in any way?
Contracts are fine and give the impression of a legitimate business although using the terminology (“and not for sex”) above alludes to the notion that something sexual may happen.
Does accepting money directly from a client, vs having it being placed on a table, and then picking it up a bit later offer any protection? Is there a suggested way of going about accepting money as an escort that would minimize legal exposure?
Placement of money is one of those issues that cuts both ways. If you accept the money directly from the client then you would have a hard time challenging the notion that you did not know what the money was for especially if sex was involved, if sex wasn’t involved then it looks like you are running a business. I don’t know of any legitimate business that you go in and set money down. You don’t buy coffee that way. If money is just set down then you could argue that you did not know what it was for and maybe thought it was a tip or something. But it also looks fishy in front of a jury, because that’s how prostitutes get paid.
What steps should an escort take if a client suddenly says that he/she is a police officer in the middle of a session?
I advise all of my clients when contacted by the police to not make any statements or say anything at all. Nothing that you say is going to help you out. I also advise people to get an attorney immediately if contacted by the police in any way. Police will tell you anything you want to hear in order to get a statement. The police cannot guarantee any outcome of the case, because they don’t have the power to decide if the case gets issued or not, that is the District Attorney’s office. You can always cooperate later once they cut you a deal.
Anything else that you think people out there should know, but mostly don’t?
Prostitution is illegal and should not be done. Escort services ( paying for a social or business companion) are part of our society and can be a very lucrative business. The more open you are with your business and the more you conduct your self like a business the less attention you will draw to yourself. It is not illegal for two consensual adults to have sex. Being very clear about the services you offer and controlling your clients (potential police officers) expectations is the key.


As you can see based on Mr. Gray’s answers, establishing your escort services as a legitimate business is your best bet when it comes to staying out of legal trouble. Be discreet, do your best to avoid anything that could be incriminating and seek professional legal advice if you run into trouble.

Some good ways to start:

  • Familiarize yourself with your state’s prostitution law
  • Register your escort business
  • Consider obtaining an massage therapy license
  • And begin paying taxes on your escort income or at least some of it


Common Mistakes Made By Sugar Babies

posted May 5, 2019, 4:28 PM by Nikki Rain

Although sugar relationship can be very sweet to a sugar baby, there tend to be some common mistakes that sugar babies make when seeking the sugar relationship or already in the relationship. You are that talented, good looking, well educated young person looking for that sugar relationship but just not sure what are the right things to do. A majority of these mistakes are made by the sugar babies when seeking arrangements.

For starters, who is a sugar baby? The term sugar baby means a person who is in a relationship in exchange for benefits. This can be gifts, cash etc and the practice is normally called "sugaring". The partner of the sugar baby is called sugar daddy and they are wealthier than sugar babies.

Most sugar babies will advertise on a general dating website or a sugar baby website. The most important part is how your profile looks on these websites. Create a profile that will grab the attention of any sugar daddy visiting the website. Have a good headline, the best picture, and mention those attractive attributes that will make that sugar daddy make that call.

The most common mistakes the sugar babies make are:

1. Not keeping emotions in check.

Emotion is a very common factor in every relationship. However, in sugar relationship, it has to be kept in check. Most sugar babies always end up falling in love with the sugar daddy even if the relationship started in a casual manner. Keeping your emotions in check might just save you that disappointment since your partner might not be ready for that serious relationship.

2. Lifestyle. 

The sugar baby should not allow themselves to be swept up by the sugar daddy lifestyle. Some of these relationships are for a short period of time hence getting swept with the lifestyle might be disastrous to you. Plan for your future with the favor you are getting. Understand why you are in the relationship in the first place.

3. Asking for cash upfront or when you have just met.

As much as the arrangement might involve receiving cash, don't be obvious about it. Asking for cash upfront might present yourself as very greedy and feeling nothing for the sugar daddy. Play it cool when you meet and let your partner not judge you when you have just met.

4. Constant communication.

Most sugar babies after being swept by love keep on calling their partners. Most sugar daddies will love to live an easy life without being bothered. A sugar baby should always conform to the schedule of the sugar daddy. Any indication of being too much available might scare away your "catch".

5. Being intimidated.

The sugar daddies have a very high-end lifestyle where they meet very senior people in the society. The sugar baby must not get intimidated by this kind of lifestyle. Show some composure and confidence when hanging out in their company. Be knowledgeable on issues for the sugar daddy to enjoy your company.

6. Confidentiality.

A majority of sugar daddies prefer to be private. Some sugar babies, however, get carried away with their relationship which they even take to the social media. Keeping your relationship private is very important if you want it to last.

In conclusion, sugar relationship can be very interesting and rewarding to the sugar babies. It is, however, important to avoid the common mistakes that might make you regret why you entered the relationship in the first place.

How To Find The Best Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby Arrangement For You?

posted May 5, 2019, 4:26 PM by Nikki Rain

They say "You Only Live Once" (YOLO), so why shouldn't you make the most of it. To some, being in a sugar relationship - sugar daddy-sugar baby relationships - is something unacceptable in the society, but there are millions of people who still do it. Is it wrong? No! It's not. That's because everyone has a right to pursue happiness wherever they find it. But, if you are looking for the best sugar daddy or sugar baby for you in a seeking arrangements dating website, there are a few thing's that you need to ensure you do to avoid being disappointed in the process. Below are a few great tips that can be of help when it comes to finding the right sugar relationship.

A Few Tips To Consider When Seeking Arrangements

1.Originality Matters A Lot

When signing up on a seeking arrangements dating website, it always a good idea to key in accurate and relevant info about yourself especially when it comes to filling in details about your hobbies, likes, dislikes, talents, skill and so on. This makes it easy for your potential soulmates to match your personality to theirs. You wouldn't want to get into a sugar relationship with someone who is the exact opposite of you in terms of hobbies, likes, and dislikes.

2.Pictures Work Wonders

Uploading some of your best photos also play a significant role in landing you the best sugar daddy or sugar baby for you. It's a fact that a lot of people always look at your photos before anything else. That's why you have to use your best photos in order to get more suitors. Upload photos that capture your beauty or handsomeness, photo's that show your irresistible figure, images of you enjoying your hobbies and so on.

3.Be Clear On What You Are Looking For In A Sugar Partner

Like all contracts or arrangements, sugar dating needs clear guidelines, rules, and exceptions to be set to avoid future conflicts. Always ensure that you lay out everything you need your potential sugar daddy or sugar baby to do or not to do. This creates a good level of understanding between the two of you and ensures that your partner knows what to expect when they get into a relationship with you. If you are looking for financial support, make sure you include that in your profile; if you are looking for someone young to have fun with, make sure you make it clear. This makes it easier for you to find the perfect match for you, instead of making shots in the dark.

With those three simple sugar dating tips, you are now all set to find the best sugar baby or sugar daddy for you. Just remember that seeking arrangementscan be a laborious process especially when the information provided is inaccurate or irrelevant. Therefore, as you search for that perfect dating partner for you, make sure that your profile in the seeking arrangements dating website clearly reflects on who you are and what you like in people. You will be amazed at how easy the whole process will be for you.

What Sugar Daddies Expect From Their Sugar Babies?

posted May 5, 2019, 4:23 PM by Nikki Rain   [ updated May 5, 2019, 4:24 PM ]

So you have heard all the perks that come with being a sugar baby and you have decided to go on the prowl for your perfect sugar daddy. Before you go on registering on all the sugar daddy websites or sugar baby websites you should first learn about what a sugar daddy will be expecting from you.

Here are some of the top things that a sugar daddy will be expecting from his sugar baby.

1. Affection

Most sugar daddies are looking for pretty young things who can adore them and treat them like kings. You need to learn the art of seduction. However, you must remember that charming a man the first time is always easy, the challenge comes in maintaining his attention. Men get easily bored with the same routine so you must learn how to keep him interested. If you don't, chances are that you will be back in the market looking for a new sugar daddy in no time.

2. Honesty

No one likes a fake person, even sugar daddies. For the most part, sugar daddies will be old men, probably old enough to be your father. This means that you should be ok with spending time and receiving affection from them. If you genuinely don't like a potential sugar daddy and you can't see yourself being affectionate with him, maybe you should try getting another sugar daddy one whom you can genuinely spend time with. Unlike what most people think a sugar baby and sugar daddy relationship is one of mutual respect and trust. After all no one likes to spend time with someone who secretly despises them.

3. Sophistication

Your sugar daddy will probably be taking you to extremely posh places and he expects you to act appropriately. You need to carry yourself with a sense of class and sophistication so that you do not end up embarrassing him. If you are completely new to the high lifestyle always follow his lead whenever you are visiting a new place that you are unaccustomed to.

4. Discreetness

Most sugar daddies are married with children and they do not intend on leaving their wives for a sugar baby. For this reason, his identity should always remain a secret. This discreetness extends to your close girlfriends. You can praise and brag to your friends but leave his name and other personal details out. Jealous girlfriends have been known try to get back at you by exposing your relationship.

5. Your time

Let us not kid ourselves, this is a mutually beneficial relationship. You get the luxury life you can't afford on your own and he gets to enjoy your company and your time. Most sugar daddies are busy hard working individuals who only get a few hours to spend with you. You should line up your schedule to align with his so that whenever he calls you are available for him. Sugar daddies do not like to be kept waiting or have their dates cancelled. 

6. Respect

He may not be the most handsome or the most well-mannered person but you will have to respect him. After all you are both benefiting from the relationship. If you want him to respect you, you must do the same.

Many sugar daddy-sugar baby relationships have been known to last for years and yours can work too but only if you both continue to fulfill each other's expectations. Just remember that mutually beneficial relationships can only be sustained if both parties continue to meet each other's needs and expectations. 


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posted Jan 6, 2019, 8:53 AM by Nikki Rain   [ updated Jan 6, 2019, 8:54 AM ]


Ladies, You're A Divine, Precious Being!

posted Nov 24, 2018, 2:52 AM by Nikki Rain

How to set your inner divine self free!

While we refrain from using the term 'Goddess', we do like to encourage empowerment and confidence in women. Empowerment isn't about women's liberation or devaluing men. It's not about belittling the family unit and traditional lifestyles, or inspiring aggression. Neither is it about feeling we are 'above' others in some way, or turning away from a conventional female societal role, necessarily. Female empowerment is about BALANCE. It's about a comprehensive enjoyment of our femininity and womanhood, whichever path we select.

In recent decades, women were nudged towards competing in a man's world, by emulating men - the large shoulder-pads from the 80's, corporate aggression or taking care to be seen as a 'strong woman', and challenging/ attempting to change the sexual benchmarks and archetypes under the guise of being 'modern'. As has been done throughout history in order to control or moderate female behavior and achievements. Thankfully females are now seeing the folly in this conduct, and in allowing themselves to be dictated to as to what makes them the ideal female... Whether physically, emotionally, career-wise or otherwise. Women are learning to embrace their own power, as women, not as women trying to be like men.

Cultures have long undervalued females and the female body, simply because they are female, and misunderstood. Childbirth, menses and menopause are all too often considered negative topics requiring medical intervention and attention. They are often seen as a disease, when in fact they are miraculous, beautiful things that only women can experience! Young girls are often conditioned to accept that they have limits, are less valuable or important than men, and that abusing herself and others is acceptable. Often considered merely a object for sexual gratification or less, women are generally conditioned to believe they are nothing. Females see themselves as competing with each other, as opposed to celebrating the beauty of being female together, and assisting each other in being successful.

Women's empowerment is about defying that view, deeply valuing the female form and functions, as well as female intuition. It's about living cheerfully and authentically. Women can look to other accomplished women for inspiration, and understand that true strength includes lifting others to reach their potential also. An empowered woman, as cliched as that phrase is, is not limited by negative inner dialogue. She cherishes her positive attributes, and graciously accepts her beloved flaws. :) She knows we should be happy with what we have, while working for what we want - we are always a work in progress. Other peoples' opinions of her are ultimately irrelevant, and don't affect her own confidence levels, because she doesn't live for others' approval (within decent moral boundaries).

She loves her curved belly or strong thighs, and she understands at a deep level that even as she strives to maintain and improve her body, to treat it with respect and maintain a strong, healthy constitution, that a little extra weight does NOT change who she is, what she has to offer, or how she accepts and cherishes herself. She is the same lovely, fascinating soul, now living in a slightly more curvaceous temple.... If her body has changed because of childbirth or weight gain or loss, those changes need to be considered a celebration of her survival, not seen as a loss of some kind, according to the airbrushed fantasy ideals of a media-obsessed society. There are plenty of men who are not so shallow, and who deeply accept the women they love, regardless of her outer changes (within healthy reason).

Our menstrual cycle is supposed to be a time of relaxation and rest, to pamper, nurture and care for ourselves; a time of introspection. Beginning a the cycle is a privileged rite of passage that young ladies should celebrate. However they can be brainwashed to believe it is shameful, dirty, disgusting. Some females like to avoid the subject altogether like it doesn't exist, having been conditioned since childhood that it is unacceptable to discuss her natural bodily functions. Your female body is a beautiful and incredible gift, that moves you through the world with power and strength. It is not anything to be ashamed of.


Harnessing her emotional power while bleeding is a powerful way for women to reclaim their innate wisdom, live to her full potential and highest vibration as a woman, and to guide other females to be self-confident and true to themselves. We want ourselves and our young women to build inner confidence, to trust our inner guidance, to promote self-care and creative expression. And ultimately, to enjoy a miraculous and fulfilling life! By referring to ourselves as 'empowered', and 'divine' (since we are all part of the universe and made up of the same matter that creates the stars!), you are sub-consciously reinforcing your powerful, unique beauty, both inner and outer.

Inner dialogue or 'self talk' is extremely effective. Speaking to yourself in the mirror can be a very powerful way to be 'your own best friend'. On your own side, as it were. To enjoy your own company and know you have yourself to rely on, is a comforting and supportive feeling. And inner dialogue tends to have a snowball effect. Which makes it a really effective tool for developing your own personal power and direction. A positive inner voice can propel you towards positive choices and a positive life. Unfortunately many people's inner voice is negative; they may not even realize it, which is why positive inner dialogue is so important to actively establish.

Although some people truly work hard to improve their situation and relationships, they can be literally sabotaging their own efforts, and wondering why they seem to be on a treadmill going nowhere. The solution for most difficulties in life lie not in outside sources, but within yourself. We have access to this IMMENSE power of the universe. And when you understand how to harness it, nothing is beyond your reach.

Far too much of our female power is lost/ given away because our collective inner dialogue is habitually negative. Very often we don't even realize it; and we need to begin changing it, one woman at a time - this movement has already begun in fact, decades ago. Speak with yourself as you would a close and beloved friend.

Consider when you say things about yourself - would you speak to someone else that way? Would you say to a young girl that she's hopeless or stupid, ugly or fat, has no future or talent? No, you'd encourage her! You'd day something like, "Agreed, it wasn't perfect, but you can do even better next time, now you have this knowledge and experience. It's great that you made the effort!" or perhaps "You look gorgeous to me, because I love you. You're one of the most attractive, unique girls I know, because your soul is beautiful".


Express to yourself the same kindness and courtesy that you'd show to others. What makes you think it is ok to treat yourself negatively? That's somebody's sister/ daughter you're talking to in the mirror! ;) Learn to be your own best friend, to have yourself on your side. And nothing in the world will phase you ever again. There will be nothing you can't achieve.

Like any building process, it'll take time, but it's worth it. Keep building. A building is erected one brick at a time. A bodybuilder's body is build one workout at a time. Weight loss, same deal; one workout/ meal at a time. A baby grows one day at a time. And your self-love and self acceptance will grow one mirror-talk at a time too. :) One decision at a time, one day at a time, until eventually you will feel the solid foundation under your feet of self-support. It's a beautiful thing.

Look yourself in the eye in the mirror and say:
  • "You're an inspiration to me! I love your _____" (This could be your eyes, strength, warm heart, resilience, whatever you admire.)
  • "You're a beautiful person, there's nobody on this planet with your unique thoughts and combination of talents!" (And that's true!)
  • "Other people's opinions of me, good or bad, don't affect what I believe about myself. I believe I am a wonderful work in progress with great potential!" (Remember the saying, "A wise person is moved neither by compliments nor criticism".)
  • "I am beneath no one" (Nor is anyone below you; we are all on different paths, and at different stages of development, but every life matters.)
  • "I am fearless in the face of all challenges" (Remember that life is like a wheel - sometimes we're up, sometimes we're down, but the downs are just lessons, and everything has its end. Til it begins again.) 
Recognize when you are going into a negative thought pattern, and stop yourself. Choose to be supportive of yourself. Replace your negative thoughts and feelings with these positive, empowering thoughts, in the mirror and throughout the day, and watch your life automatically change before your eyes. This is how you set your inner divine self free, and allow her to be as powerful and effective as she deserves to be - every woman is a divine being. You just have to believe in You, and set yourself free!

XOXO
Nikki

How to Be an Escort's Favorite Client

posted Nov 24, 2018, 2:36 AM by Nikki Rain

Learn the correct conduct when dealing with an escort. What and what not to do if you want to be a great client.

1. Wherever you find your escort, research her. Does she have a website, does she have ads going back at least 6 months, does she have reviews (although some escorts do not like being reviewed)? Google her name and phone number or email before contacting her. Also expect her to want to screen your for her own safety; be respectful and provide whatever info she requires.


2. Be on time, or call if you will be more than 10 minutes late. Unless you are giving notice of a time change well in advance, expect to pay for the time you missed. If your 60 minute date was supposed to start at 7 and you get there at 7:15, STILL LEAVE AT 8. Please respect the escort's time and schedule, and don't linger. Even if the escort genuinely enjoyed the time with you, it is annoying and awkward if you overstay. If you want more time, ask and if she says yes, expect to pay for it at the rate previously discussed.


3. Know what's on menu in advance and do not deviate from it. Escorts use code words like, CIM, greek, GFE, PSE... google these before you call or email.


4. Never ever discuss sexual acts or money in person. For your own safety! If it is a sting, they will try to get you to say what you are there for out loud. When in doubt, kiss the girl or ask her to get more comfortable. If she complies, green light!


5. Money first always! If you must refer to it at any time, call it a gift. Do not hand the money directly to her, set it down where she can see it, or wherever you were told to beforehand, (often by the sink in the bathroom).


6. Be nice, treat her like a lady, and be respectful. She is a real person, you don't need to be intimidated and you certainly shouldn't feel superior either.


7. Don't feel like you need to blow her mind sexually. While noble, and very sweet, she is there for you. Do not hold back at the beginning because you want to last for her, this often ends in not being able to finish at all. Which nobody wants. You can take care of her after if you enjoy that, but no pressure here either.


8. Try to read her cues. She is a real women with real likes and dislikes. Not everyone wants to be talked dirty to, or smash-cuddled post coitus. Some might love it though!


9. She will not be offended if you need to leave right after. Whether you need to get back to work, or just aren't into idle chit-chat and cuddling, do your thing. She will enjoy the extra down-time. If you have a genuine rapport or chemistry, or if you are just enjoying the company and a break from real life, then stay the whole time! She will be happy either way.


10. Tip! Always tip. No one care if it's $20 or $200, tip your escort. Unless she was terrible. Tipping lets the woman know that you liked her and that you appreciate her time and effort. This is especially important if you want to see the escort again. If you went for a twofer, then tip extra well!


11. Ask her if she would like to be reviewed. If yes, keep it simple, and do not fabricate. If you say she did something that she didn't, other clients may expect that same service in the future.


12. Always be clean!!! Very very clean. If you just came from work or whatever, take a quick shower at the location. You don't want to be known as the 'Smegma-Guy'.


13. Bring wine or a gift. Escorts love this and you will go right to the front of the line, hopefully. Wine can help to get you both relaxed and comfortable, and is a good social lubricant when you have to make all the magic happen in an hour or two. You can ask in advance what she likes, and don't forget the glasses! Gift certificates are always a safe bet if you want to bring a gift, stores like Amazon, Victoria's Secret, Bath and Body, etc. If you know the escort well, you may want to give her more personalized gifts like lingerie, jewelry, and perfume. ****Super extra bonus points if you buy her drinks/take her to dinner first, (WHILE she is being compensated for her time at her usual rate). If you really enjoy her company and can afford to do this, this is the best way to make her feel special. Remember she is on the clock though, and do not ever ask her to meet for free. That is a line neither of you should cross.

The Art Of Disappearing

posted Nov 3, 2018, 3:28 AM by Nikki Rain   [ updated Nov 3, 2018, 3:29 AM ]

Whether you’re seeing an SD or a Client, and whether they’ve told you that they are single, dating or married, it doesn’t matter. He could be lying, just like this is his first time meeting a girl like you? Right. Either way, I believe in the art of disappearing after all of my sessions. It makes their time spent with me safer, and it makes me and my identity safer when they go home and meet with an angry partner.

For those of you who may think things like:

  • “I’m just going to leave my lips kissed on his shirt collar because it looks sexy in the movies.” NO. This isn’t the movies, it’s his life, and it’s his reality.
  • “I’m just going to leave him with a little scent of me so that he’ll remember me when he’s at home with her.” NO. That’s a first clue to a woman that he’s been up to no good while he’s been gone.
  • “I’ll write my number and a little cute message on this hotel’s piece of paper and stick it in his pocket for him to find later and he’ll “think of me and smile”. NO. Chances are he doesn’t do his own laundry, and chances are he’s not that observant to finding these clues you leave. So do him and yourself a favor and don’t risk it.

Remember how many times when you were communicating, that you both used and repeated the words: ”discrete, discretion, private, privacy, anonymous, respectful, mature” etc etc…It's because they don’t want these cute high school tactics to follow them home, and neither should you want them to.

Your job is to provide him with a safe escape from his reality, not a jail sentence once he returns home. If you make it difficult for him to spend time with you, he won’t. If he can’t spend time with you, then you don’t get paid. So, if it was such a good time spent together and you’re happy with what you earned during that time, why ruin the chances of it happening again?

Things I do/use to “disappear”:

  • Lip stain vs lipstick - A lip stain is a liquid that literally stains your lips, so that you don’t need to reapply it after you’ve eaten, enjoyed a heavy make out session or if you’ve fallen asleep and woke up drooling. It lasts for HOURS, I love the matte look and it just so happens to still look as good in the evening as when you put it on in the morning. The reason I chose to wear lip stains from “Younique” is because their products are not only amazing, but they don’t test on animals, are gluten free, are vegan and are made from all natural sources = chemical free! No, I don’t work for them, lol, I just love and use their products.
  • Water proof mascara - I don’t know about you, but I end up with mascara smudged into pillow cases, smudged into the sheets, and god only knows where else lol. It gets hot and feisty sometimes, so I use this so that I don’t take my chances with it coming off on him or his clothing. However, at other times you can find me wearing Younique’s 3D Fibre Lashes. If you haven’t tried these…you are seriously missing out. Seriously. But as much as I like them, they just aren’t made for heavy petting.
  • Body dust/powder - I prefer to use a tinted body powder over perfume when I know I’m about to be intimate with an SD or Client. I’m careful to chose one that is edible, safe for all areas of my body and has a slight shimmer to it. (Right now, I’m rather keen on a soft peach mango flavor). Not only does it look pretty, it tastes and smells great too. The key word being taste. I’ve gotten so many compliments on “how good I taste” and how it makes my skin feel silky. If you’re worried that they’ll notice this fine dust, they won’t, it disappears when it’s applied unless you’ve bathed in it. By the way, I put my body dust everywhere. I put it on the back of my neck, up my ass crack, on my thighs and everywhere in between lol. I want the taste of my body to be memorable and my smell mesmerizing in the moment. The best thing, is that after our session/time together and I’m long gone, so is my scent.
  • Organization - When undressing try putting/throwing all of your items in the same direction so that you can leave with what you came with. It’s not really cute to be fretting and not lifting mattresses and bed skirts trying to search for a missing thong or your girlfriends earrings that you borrowed to look classy etc. You know, that kinda thing. Plus, bottom line, it’s not the most attractive thing to look under chairs for your undergarments, especially when all you want to do is leave quickly.
  • Abide by the rules - Whatever the rules are, abide by them. If it’s no calling or texting after 9, start saying your goodbyes at 8. If it’s only one visit a week, don’t beg him to come see you twice. They are there for a reason, to make sure that your arrangements are as successful as they can be, and not as chaotic as they can quickly become. It’s simply another way to be respectful to him, to you and to his life beyond your time together.
  • Business cards - Be seen, but not found out.
  • Gifts - I always bring a gift the first time I’m meeting with someone, if we haven’t seen each other in a while, or if I just feel like being sweet, which is more often than not. I like to give gifts that can easily be explained away and are not to have obviously come from a secret lover - like embroidered silk boxers. For example: a small box of chocolates, a small stuffed animal for his daughter that he’s told me she’s recently obsessed with or even his favorite latte drink from Starbucks. Whatever the gift is, and they are usually under $20, I make sure that it’s easily excusable as if he had bought it himself if anyone should see it or find it.
  • Bring him supplies - Not only do I look like crap after a steamy date, but 9/10 men that I’ve been with could use some freshening up before they head out the door too. We always bring things for ourselves, but rarely do we think of bringing things for them as well. Truth be told, most men won’t notice that they don’t look the same as when they left their homes at 9am, especially after a fun date with you, and it’s time to return back home at 9pm. But his wife will notice. So, if he happens to use a certain type of hair gel or spray etc, make sure that you have a sample size of it in your purse. You want him to leave looking as good and as “normal” as before he came to see you. You don’t want him looking like he just got out of a wrestling match but was really supposed to be at a meeting. Looks in = looks out. For both of you.
  • Random things - Carry a tide bleach pen, know how to use an iron, bring an extra set of travel-sized toothbrush and toothpaste, gum, breath mints, a tiny febreeze spray stick in case your scent does linger or he’s worked himself up into a sweat, it won’t be as obvious as a spritz of fresh cologne.

Of course, this is just what I do, so if you have any other tips, please share them! At the end of the day, it’s up to you to decide which risks are worth taking, which ones aren’t and then from there determine a game plan that works best for you.

How to Become a Successful Independent Female Escort

posted Aug 26, 2018, 2:36 AM by Nikki Rain


So you want to explore the possibilities of working for yourself as an independent female escort? Congratulations! That's great news and I'm very excited for you because you are about to begin an exciting new chapter in your life. There are some things which may not occur to you before pursuing your desire to work as an escort, and some of them are quite important. That's why I'm writing this for you --- the escort newbie.

I'm going to help guide you through the process of setting yourself up as a successful, classy woman who works for herself and no one else. The sex industry, and escorting in particular, offer many lucrative opportunities. You won't want to repeat the most common mistakes of other women starting out in the business. Due to the level of freedom you will enjoy working as an escort, many girls and ladies simply dive right into their work as an escort without any sort of plan or guidelines. This is something you will want to avoid doing. I will explain why in more detail later on in this guide.

Part 1: Do You Have What it Takes to Be an Escort?

The first step towards becoming an escort is deciding if it's the right type of work for you. This requires an honest self-assessment and you will need to take a personal inventory in order to discover the answer for yourself. Since many women are relatively uninformed regarding sex work in general, I decided it would be helpful to include a short list of serious questions to answer before making any hasty decisions.

3 Important Questions To Ask Yourself

1. How are you going to handle family and friends? This is among the most difficult issues for many girls. Do you have children? Are you married, or in a relationship or some sort? Do you keep in touch with your parents or other family members? If so, you will want to spend some time seriously considering what their reactions may be to hearing of your new career path. If you have supportive and open-minded family and friends, this shouldn't be too hard to handle. But for most people, these are delicate and controversial subjects and there is a good chance that you will either have to keep this part of your life private or be prepared to deal with the criticism and disapproval of others that are close to you. 

2. Is Escorting your main plan for income, or will it be supplemental? Do you have a job already? Maybe you're already successful in some other line of work? Either way, this is an important point to consider. If you are already working in a different field, you should probably place a higher priority on keeping that job than on experimenting as an escort. Unless your job is horrible and you are living below the poverty level, it will be a wise choice to keep your current job for future security. The nice thing about escorting is that you will be able to make enough in one hour to substitute more than an entire day's worth of wages at your day job. This means it will be more than sufficient as supplemental income, and at the same time it will not interfere with your other work schedule at all. 

3. Are you really comfortable having casual sexual encounters with total strangers? This may be the most important question to ask yourself. Not all women are sexually adventurous, self-confident and comfortable with casual sexual encounters with people they don't know at all. This is very understandable, since everyone can agree that we all have our own insecurities and areas to improve on. My advice for women considering this type of work is to think about how they have felt during past experiences with casual encounters. Is this something you've ever done? Do you do it often and enjoy it? Or is the thought of actually following through with the idea make you a bit nervous? These types of insights will help you decide on the right answer.

Part 2: Setting Up a Realistic Work Plan

Once you have decided that escorting is the right path for you to take, it's time to devise a basic and realistic work plan. This step will also require you to answer some questions and formulate the right answers for your individual situation. There are lots of little details that demand attention at this point in the process. The importance of each will become more obvious with time. Your work plan should address two main aspects of your work as an escort --- the practical and oftentimes small details and the more crucial safety and precaution aspect. Both are essential, though you should always place the highest priority on ensuring your safety in all situations.

Where are you going to advertise your services? 
This is a legitimate question now that Craig's List has done away with their "Erotic Services" section. Until recently, Craig's List was by far the most useful free online advertising platform for all female escorts around the world. Since they are no longer offering this service, you will need to explore your other options. 

1. You will need to make yourself a free website to start out with. The best escort-specific service offering free sites is Rare Escorts. Register a free account with them and use their user-friendly interface to put together a basic website where you can advertise your escort services. Be sure to take advantage of the "Partners" page of the site, since this is where you will establish reciprocal links with other relevant sites related to escorts and escorting.

2. Join escort review boards and forums -- these are the best places to post regular ads and will help you to build a good reputation once you get some client reviews. Two of the best review boards are TNABoard and TheEroticReview. Introduce yourself and get to know the regulars there.

3. Create accounts on escort top sites and exchange banners/links with other similar websites. This will require a little research of your own, but it shouldn't be hard to find some sites that will exchange links with you and help bring some traffic to your site. Just do a Google search for something like "escort top 100 sites" to start out with. Once you're on a site, look for an option that says something like "exchange links," "banner exchange," or even just "links" on some sites. Create an account or submit a link exchange request and follow the steps provided. Some sites will ask you to email them this info instead, but once you've done this a few times you will be familiar with the details they need from you.
◦ My preferred escort top sites for exchanging banners are EscortCharts and HotTopEscorts
◦ To create listings of your site and services, I recommend posting classified ads at NaughtyNightLife, Cityvibe, Outcall.net, and PlayPages

 4. Be sure that you include RELEVANT KEYWORDS when you create your free site. This is how the search engines will find your site when people search for your type of site. It shouldn't be too hard to figure out which words to use, but that will of course depend on what you plan on offering.

What services do you plan on offering? 
This is something you will want to spend some time thinking about before you start to advertise anything. Different girls are comfortable with different levels of intimacy and contact. This is something only you can decide for yourself. Just remember, you only have to do what you want to do. There is no one who can set these parameters for you, since you're working totally for yourself. Don't pressure yourself to engage in any activities that make you uncomfortable. Why? Because there is no need to! Believe me, you will not miss out on any real profit by limiting the types of services you provide to your clients. Trust me. There are plenty of gentlemen out there who want the things you DO provide, so to hell with the ones who want something that's not on your menu! 

Important escort terminology/ acronyms you will need to be familiar with:
◦ GFE = Girlfriend Experience: The term refers to an experience that is similar to the type of interaction between dating couples. GFE escorts are usually very sensual with clients and are very affectionate. 
◦ BBBJ = Bareback Blowjob: This acronym refers to providing oral sex without the use of a condom. 
◦ FS = Full service: This acronym refers to providing sexual intercourse. 
◦ CIM & Cof = Cum In Mouth & Cum on Face: 
◦ Birdwatching = Swallowing: Self-explanatory.
◦ Russian = Tit Fucking: Self-explanatory. 
◦ French = Oral/BJ: Another term for providing oral or BJs. 
◦ Greek = Anal: Self-explanatory. 
◦ DFK = Deep French Kissing: Self-explanatory. 
◦ DATY = Dining at the Y: This acronym refers to receiving oral sex from clients. 
◦ 69 = Simultaneous oral sex 
◦ Multiple Cups = Multiple Orgasms: This refers to allowing multiple orgasms or "more than one round"
◦ PSE = Porn Star Experience: This acronym refers to the opposite of GFE (overtly pornographic encounter instead) 
◦ BDSM = Bondage Discipline Sadism Masochism: Refers to services that are considered more "hardcore" ◦ YMMV = Your Mileage May Vary: This acronym indicates that a client's experience with an escort/provider may not be consistent with the experiences of other hobbyists on a review board. 
◦ Provider = Escort: Euphemism for "escort" 
◦ Hobbyist = Client: Euphemism for "client" 
◦ BBW = Big Beautiful Woman: Euphemism for full-figured escorts 
◦ Spinner = Very Petite/Skinny Escort: Term used to refer to the more petite escort 
◦ ROB = Rip Off Bitch: Negative acronym referring to escorts that cash and dash (rip off clients)

How much should you charge for your services?
 After you have set up your own menu of services, you will need to price each of them. This will fluctuate depending on the cost of living in your area and a number of other factors as well. You might be under the impression that you can charge more if you are young and in good physical shape, but girls of all shapes, sizes and ages charge comparable rates and still get high volumes of business! So again, don't set your rates any lower than you want them to be. As long as you are reasonable within your geographic location, you should have no problem finding clients who are willing to pay whatever prices you decide on. 

Suggestions for setting your rates:
◦ First set your hourly rate for FS. This will typically be somewhere between $160-$400 for most girls. 
◦ I also recommend setting a half hour rate, as this can increase your number of clients and bring in lots of extra profits. If you want to keep things simple, you can just charge half of your hourly rate for 1/2 hour session. Or, another option is to use a pricing model similar to: $200 per hour/$150 per half hour. This method will promote the hour long appointment in addition to making 1/2 hour appointments worth your time. 
◦ Typically, BBBJ is priced lower as a single service than FS. For example, let's say you decide that you decide to charge $200 per hour of FS. For clients only booking you for BBBJ (typically closer to 1/2 hour) you may try charging somewhere in the neighborhood of $80-$100. 
◦ Some services are considered by many to fall into the "fetish" category. Some examples are Greek (anal), PSE (porn star experience) and even GFE (or kissing). Oftentimes girls charge extra fees for these types of services, anywhere between $50-$100 more (sometimes less and sometimes even more). 
◦ Set a rate for overnight appointments. These are priced in a variety of different ways which vary quite a bit from one girl to the next.
◦ When business is slow, try running a special. This can attract new clients and usually involves a specific service offered for a limited time. A common example of a special is a weekend-long "quickie" service at a discounted price. Some escorts even offer these types of services on their regular menu, but in either case they usually involve FS sessions that do not typically last longer than 15-20 minutes.

Where will you be providing your services? 
This detail is quite important also, and will of course depend greatly on your living situation and other factors. 

Here are some terms related to where you provide your services:
Incall: This term is used to describe services that an escort offers at their own residence or another location they are staying at (motel room, etc). 
Outcall: This term is used to describe services that an escort provides at a client's residence or other location that they provide (work, etc). This is usually priced higher to compensate for gas money (if you drive yourself) or cab fare, as well as travel time. 
Hotel/Motel: If you and your client are both unable to provide a secure location for your session, one possible solution is to rent a hotel/motel room. If you want to keep the room so that you can see other clients afterwards, offer to split the rental fee with them and rent the room in your name. Many clients will appreciate and prefer this, since they have privacy concerns. Just be careful not to draw too much unwanted attention to yourself by having too much traffic at all hours of the night or day. Keep a low profile. 
Hot Tubbing: Another option to explore is a hot tubbing establishment. Not everyone is located near one, but if you check the local listings in your city and find a hot tub rental business nearby then give it a try! These are usually rented out by the hour, for slightly less than you'd pay for a cheap motel room. 
Adult Video Stores: Another possibility is meeting a client at an adult video store for a session. This will of course require you to be somewhat discreet, so exercise caution. Just make sure you choose a store that offers video previewing in private booths, for a small fee. 
Car Dates: If all else fails, you can always have your client pick you up in their vehicle and drive around until you find a quiet spot for a quick session.

Setting Up Effective Safety Practices

Now that you have worked out some of the fun little details of your work as an escort, it's time to address the very serious matter of ensuring your safety. This should be of the utmost importance to all girls out there, regardless of the situation. Never be tempted by offers that seem too good to be true, because they almost always are! You should always keep in mind that no offer is worth compromising your safety or doing something you feel uneasy about. 

Safety Tips:
• Never accept phone calls from blocked numbers 
• Try to stick to clients who are registered members of online review forums. Always ask for their handle so you can verify their online identity and do your homework. 
• If your client is picking you up, take a note of their license plate number by inputting into a text message on your cell phone and sending it to a close friend who knows what you're going to do.
Tell them how long the appointment is supposed to be, so they can contact help if you can't be reached after this long. 
• Ask new clients for a provider reference. This is a great way to contact another escort who can verify a new client's identity and confirm that they are safe. 
• Be very clear and upfront about what you are willing to do and what you aren't willing to do BEFORE meeting with a new client for an appointment. 
• If you are going to meet your new client at their place, be sure to leave the address with a close friend who is aware of what you are doing and knows when you should be expected to return. 
• If you start to feel uncomfortable once you've already gotten into a car with a client or arrived at their house, send an alert text to your friend who is standing by if you can access your phone and quickly send a short message. 
• If a client starts to threaten, intimidate or frighten you by demanding and becoming forceful, do not resist. Do not allow the situation to escalate further. Do your best to remain as calm as possible and comply with their demands for the time being. Unless you are fairly certain that you have an opportunity to run or get away from them quickly, it is best not to anger them or agitate them. You want to make them feel at ease, even if you are in a state of distress. This type of situation must be handled very carefully to ensure your safety. 
• You do have the option of carrying a weapon of some sort when you are on your own meeting new clients. Even a can of mace kept in your handbag might save you from a dangerous situation. Just be confident that you will be able to use any weapon you're carrying on your person effectively before attempting to defend yourself with it, in order to avoid being overpowered and having it taken from you. Always wait for the right moment to take such actions.

Part 3: General Tips & Best Practices

Now that we've covered some of the most important aspects of working as an escort, I'd like to briefly go over some general tips and best practices for all girls starting out in the escorting business. I have gathered a helpful collection of things to avoid, things to expect and things to make a habit of. So here we go.

3 Things You Should Avoid at All Costs

  1. BB FS (bareback full service)! This is another way of saying "unprotected sex" with strangers! Never offer this service and do not be persuaded by clients requesting this type of service for significant tips! It's never worth it to compromise your health and safety for the sake of one insignificant sexual encounter. You don't want to end up with something like herpes for the rest of your life. Not to mention more serious diseases like HIV/AIDS. Protect yourself always, regardless of the money involved. 
  2. Steer clear of potential clients who contact you with disturbing or bizarre requests/fantasies. This is usually not a good sign and there's a good chance that they are not safe to meet in person. I've had some very offensive requests in my years working as an escort, so don't be surprised if you are contacted by some unsavory characters. I once received an email from a guy that wanted me to have sex with his adult daughter while he watched! No way!
  3. Giving freebies, advance sessions or discounts to clients. The main reason that you should avoid doing these things is that once you allow it, most people will immediately expect it every time they see you. This does not convey a very professional image to your clients either. Stick to rates and be firm. People will have more respect for you and you won't damage your client-provider relationships.

3 Things You Must Always Do

  1. Get regular medical checkups and STD screenings. This is important for all girls working as escorts, even if you are always careful and use protection. No method is certain; mistakes are always possible. Condoms break, things happen. Always be sure to stay updated when it comes to your personal health. Be sure you are using a form of birth control also, in the event that condoms fail you. 
  2. Try to always have at least $500 set aside to bail yourself out of jail in case you get busted. I know that no one wants to make plans for this scenario, but if it does happen then you will be glad that you thought ahead. If you are lured into a sting and busted by law enforcement, you won't want to spend any more time locked up than necessary. I know it's not always possible, but do your best to keep at least a few hundred dollars tucked away safely somewhere and also leave instructions for a close friend to handle the situation if you are arrested. 
  3. Use your common sense and intuition. This may seem silly, but it's actually one of the most important pieces of advice I could give you. Is a client trying to meet you somewhere public? Does it seem weird to you? Don't go! Use your gut instincts when it comes to this stuff. Respond to any red flags with an attitude that says "it's just not worth it!"

3 Things to Expect

  1. Nervous, paranoid and elusive new clients. This is very common, especially if you haven't met with the person yet. Many clients have wives, families, important jobs and public images. Until you have established some level of trust with a client (usually this happens after 2-4 meetings) then you should expect a certain level of suspicion from them as well. It's not only you that has to worry about the encounter! Don't be surprised if some guys demand to know if you are a cop before meeting with you in person. Just do your best to reassure them and make the experience relaxing and enjoyable. They will almost always express their gratitude generously. 
  2. Since it's generally viewed as a bad practice, money is usually not openly discussed between providers and clients in person. Most experienced hobbyists will use a similar ritual for paying you. Typically, when you first arrive in person and greet one another they will set a white envelope somewhere visible, without saying anything. Sometimes they will indicate that it's for you, but if they are skittish or nervous they may not verbally announce it. The appropriate way to go about collecting your payment is to leave the envelope containing your "donation" out in the open until after the session is over. At that time, you can silently collect it and you don't need to say anything about it except perhaps a thank you. 
  3. Some of your clients will develop some sort of additional interest in you at some point. At least in my own experience, this is rather common and may be expressed in a number of different ways. Over the years, I've developed some very close friendships with some of my clients. This has been very rewarding and I have formed some close bonds with a select few who I still communicate with today. Although this can sometimes create an awkwardness when meeting with them professionally, it usually doesn't become a significant problem if you only spend time together in person when you're having an appointment. I would generally discourage other escorts from accepting offers to go out with clients or meet up with them outside of appointments. The only way that I think this is acceptable is if there is a mutual romantic interest between the provider and the client. But then, if that's the case, I suppose you would be dating then, wouldn't you? That's as different story.

Part 4: Conclusion

Well, we've managed to cover quite a few of the details involved in working as an escort. Don't forget, these are just some of the basics and a good portion of these subjects will vary considerably for each person. Just be in control of your own actions, play by your own set of rules, don't be influenced by others and most importantly, always be safe.

I hope you have enjoyed reading this and find the information in this guide useful!

Take care & Stay Safe!!
Nikki

11 Don’ts of Screening Clients

posted May 8, 2018, 12:05 AM by Nikki Rain   [ updated May 8, 2018, 12:06 AM ]

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As an escort, you know the importance of screening your clients ahead of time. Properly screening clients keeps you safe, helps avoid pranksters and enables you to rule out any suspicious characters who may be law enforcement officials. While there is a long list of “dos” when you research your clients and verify their identities, there are also several “don’ts” you should take into account, too.

Clients often feel that an escort invades their privacy by asking required questions in order to screen them. However, some escorts do go above and beyond what should be required in order to properly investigate a prospective client. Escorts who cross boundaries when screening are just as loathsome as clients who lie or push for special privileges. Avoid these top 11 things when screening a client:

1. Don’t ask about your client’s income. As long as your client can pay your fee, his income is no business of yours. Asking or guessing about your client’s income may make him suspicious about you. Clients are always on the lookout for escorts who are going to scam them or threaten them in other ways. When you ask about his income, you leave yourself open to additional scrutiny from your client. (And justifiably so.) Clients must be careful to avoid escorts who may be plotting to blackmail, rob or kidnap them in order to get a small fortune. If you’re really that curious about what type of income your client makes, most high-profile professionals’ net worth are available online.

2. Don’t ask about a client’s marital status. Regardless of whether a client is married, engaged, divorced, widowed or completely single, he is contacting you because he wants to spend time with you in exchange for your modest fee. Unless you have some non-traditional standard about not seeing a particular type of client, his relationship status is not your concern. Whether he is attached or unattached shouldn’t enable you to do your job any better or more efficiently. You’re not looking for a husbAnd so setting your mark on single clients isn’t an option. And many clients will see this as a direct invasion into their personal lives. They may also read more into it than you intend, suspecting you of planning to blackmail them with the threat of telling their partners.

3. Don’t get into your client’s personal business. If a client recently went through a messy divorce, it’s not your business to dig into court records to learn about the divorce settlement or how much alimony he is paying his ex-wife. Similarly, don’t delve into a client’s scandalous past, his cheating ex-girlfriend or other pitfalls in life that may have played themselves out in public in the media. However, if your client has been involved in violent assaults, including domestic disputes, it is your business. Often, men who are abusers of partners will project that same type of violence onto escorts.

4. Don’t contact your potential client’s employer. If you’re having difficulties verifying your client’s identity, it’s acceptable to call his employer and verify his status. You can pretend to be a loan officer or a club representative who is following up on an application. But if you can double-check his employment through an online search or other means, do not call his place of work. Additionally, if you do call the employer, do not ask questions about his performance, timeliness, length of tenure or other details. Asking too many questions may cause suspicion and implications for him.

5. Don’t call his residence. Even though you may want to verify that your client actually lives where he claims he does, calling his residence is not the proper way to find out. You are crossing a line by contacting him at home. In addition to crossing a line by calling him, you could reach his children or wife, instead. Your anonymous phone call could raise red flags and cause him to be in hot water, especially if things are tense between him and his wife, already.

6. Don’t ask personal questions that are unnecessary for your screening process. Many clients are very forthcoming with information when they understand your screening procedure and purpose. They will gladly tell you what you need to know in order to get an encounter booked. However, it’s terribly easy to take advantage of cooperative clients by asking inappropriate questions. If you find yourself pushing your client for information that you won’t need in order to verify his identity and background, then you’re crossing boundaries. General questions about his name, age, employment, criminal history and address are acceptable. If you begin inquiring about how many times he’s been married, how many kids he has and which church he attends, you’re going too far.

7. Don’t spy on your prospective client. If you’ve had a hard time verifying some of the information he has given you, it may be necessary to follow a client from his place of work to his home to ensure he is who he claims to be. However, if you’re finding yourself following him to lunch, the bar after work or shopping with his wife on a Saturday, you’ve begun to invade your client’s privacy. Despite how discreet you are, you run the risk of getting caught by your client (And he’s sure to run you off after that!) or missing out on other encounters with other clients by spending your time spying. You don’t have time for this; you’ve got a successful business that needs tending to.

8. Don’t show up in person to investigate your client. Masquerading as a door-to-door vacuum sales person or a survey taker is not an effective method of verifying that your client actually lives where he says he does. It’s not acceptable to show up at his workplace, pretending to be a customer or a delivery person. Running into your client somewhere you shouldn’t ahead of time is a violation of his privacy and a deception of discretion between the two of you. Your client hasn’t provided you with information about himself, just to have you show up in person to check him out. It’s not professional, and you shouldn’t waste your time doing it.

9. Don’t drag out the screening process for no reason. Some escorts drag out the process, because their guts tell them to beware of a client. When you have a negative feeling about a client, it’s perfectly advisable to slow down to ensure you don’t miss something. However, if you’re dragging out the process because a client is older, unattractive or slightly unappealing in some other way, it’s not fair to your client. If you decide you don’t want to book an encounter with a client, tell him sooner rather than later, so that he can look for a new escort. Regardless of who the client is or what he looks like, he deserves to be advanced through the screening process fairly and expeditiously.

10. Don’t get too busy to screen new clients. While it’s great that you have a full client list and are happy with your current business, it never hurts to add a couple more to your calendar for rainy days. Make time to screen new clients to ensure that your business remains steady. You never know when a regular client will call it quits with you, leaving a gaping hole in your schedule (and pocketbook). By making the time each month for a couple of new clients, you are expanding your ability to run a thriving business that remains successful throughout time. You shouldn’t feel pressured to take every client who comes your way, but you ought to be open to a couple of new ones once in awhile.

11. Don’t let a new client charm you into disregarding your screening process. Even if your charmer insists that he doesn’t have time for you to screen him, do not proceed with a personal visit until you’ve researched him enough to verify his identify. Ted Bundy and other serial killers were very charming and talked several women into trusting them. Don’t allow a client to convince you he’s okay just because he’s a smooth talker with a twinkle in his eye. Stick to your screening guns and check everyone out.

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